It is good that you have it. I think when there's some common understanding about what you do, it's easier.
My second oldest brother, the one that's the attorney, I think he gets what I do more than the other two, and definitely more than my parents or grandma. I think it's hard for my parents too because there's no, like... outward signs of success? If that makes sense? Like my brother the doctor got his medical degree, my brother the lawyer wins in court, my brother the nonprofit guy can show the work he's done in the community. Mine's more secretive, it's hard to show my parents I'm doing well too.
And I can see that - both with your brother getting it more since he works in the system as well and how your parents aren't seeing as tangible of a result of what you're doing, so they worry more. That was the other part of my mom's worry when she found out I was getting into security and protection detail. [ Best analogue she's got without revealing the more supernatural side of it. ]
But the thing is with what either of us do, the fact that we don't bring our work home with us, in a sense - is actually a good thing. Keeps them safe.
[ Olivia laughs, but it's decidedly lacking in mirth. ]
I'm not keeping the job to myself to be a pain. Mom really doesn't need to know some of the things I've seen or found out about people. It's for the best.
Yeah. And it sucks that it takes having to lie to them or just outright not saying anything in the first place in order to do so, but that's ... unfortunately part of it.
![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png){kind=small}
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
timeasmymeasure
no subject
Date: 2017-12-01 05:54 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2017-12-01 06:40 pm (UTC)[ She idly bites her lip in thought before letting out a long exhale. ]
And I get that I'm lucky in getting that support, I can't deny that. I dunno. Might be making it sound more complicated than it probably is.
no subject
Date: 2017-12-04 05:53 pm (UTC)My second oldest brother, the one that's the attorney, I think he gets what I do more than the other two, and definitely more than my parents or grandma. I think it's hard for my parents too because there's no, like... outward signs of success? If that makes sense? Like my brother the doctor got his medical degree, my brother the lawyer wins in court, my brother the nonprofit guy can show the work he's done in the community. Mine's more secretive, it's hard to show my parents I'm doing well too.
no subject
Date: 2017-12-07 05:15 pm (UTC)And I can see that - both with your brother getting it more since he works in the system as well and how your parents aren't seeing as tangible of a result of what you're doing, so they worry more. That was the other part of my mom's worry when she found out I was getting into security and protection detail. [ Best analogue she's got without revealing the more supernatural side of it. ]
But the thing is with what either of us do, the fact that we don't bring our work home with us, in a sense - is actually a good thing. Keeps them safe.
no subject
Date: 2017-12-08 11:08 pm (UTC)[ Olivia laughs, but it's decidedly lacking in mirth. ]
I'm not keeping the job to myself to be a pain. Mom really doesn't need to know some of the things I've seen or found out about people. It's for the best.
no subject
Date: 2017-12-11 04:22 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2017-12-16 05:55 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2017-12-23 03:36 pm (UTC)[ Madsen frowns, staring down at her glass before she lets out a groan. ]
Anyway, let's ... get off that topic. Came here to feel better not worse about myself.